POLIGAMY VS POLYAMORY
There is an old quotation in prose by John Donne that very correctly says "No man is and Island." Sticking to the analogy, it implies that man (island) is intrinsically connected, part of the mainland or part of the continent. In the same vane man is connected to his family and his community, firstly through his family tree, parents and siblings then through neighbours friends, colleagues and acquaintances. This perpetuation continues through marriage and fosters a genuine sense of belonging. Man invariably has an inherent feeling of belonging called "love and togetherness" hence he finds himself a mate to marry so that he can start his very own family tree and community.Marriage is a natural part of living. It is an institution that is highly recommended by all religions because it's a standard of morality. It is that promise to marry your partner with God Almighty as the witness, to honour and love and cherish and share and procreate until death do you part, along with the blessings of your parents that makes the difference in marriage as apposed to living together. These are but a few reasons that makes marriage honourable and worthwhile and sought after. In the same sense a tree is married to the soil, the branches married to its trunk and the leaves married to its branches. All owning a sense of belonging. Like the leaves have a sense of belonging, offspring should also have the same sense of ownership to their parents. Not a warped ownership, because they were born bastards (a child born of parents not married to each other). No moral person would want to be accused of fornication (sexual intercourse between people not married to each other) because it is generally considered disgraceful. Neither would any unmarried young girl take kindly to being accused of being a whore due to an accidental pregnancy, because it is frightfully embarrassing. Yet this does happen, in fact it happens on a global scale. To make matters worse, adultery (voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse), has become the favourite pastime for colleagues working side by side for at least 8 hours daily. The moral excluded.
Adultery closely follows the heels of extramarital sex (sexual relations outside of the marriage) as the integrity of some husbands and some wives become blurred. Both forms of infidelity (being unfaithful to your spouse) are frowned upon by religion as a grave sin. However, living together in sin (sexually intimate) rather than marriage has become a social norm in modern society, yet not socially accepted, it is certainly not condoned by the religious nor tolerated by the majority of women. The old saying "to make an honest woman of her" implies that a man was dating a woman and was having an intimate/sexual relationship with her, and that its high time that her marries her. Needless to say in every such a situation women have an expectancy of marriage. Women want to get married, they want to be brides, the want a husband. The obstacle is that globally the gender ratios are out of whack.
Three years ago (2013) this figure stated that 49.59% of the global population were women, implying that men outnumber women on the planet by as much as 60 million. The two countries with the largest populations China and India, both having a preference for sons and due to this now have a major population imbalance . However, they are not the only countries struggling with this problem. Looking back there are as many as 81 countries that have a majority of women, with as few as 37 countries having a majority of men. The remaining 75 countries were are within 0.5% of gender parity. Russia, Armenia, Ukraine, Latvia, Lithuania, Estonia and Belarus are just a few among the many countries with the largest female populations, most of them potential brides seeking marriage from men in foreign countries. Considering that the global prison population is 90% male which is further compounded by the astronomical global gay figure, automatically excludes a large percentage of available men from marriage. Looking at the amount of men that gets killed in armed conflicts and war torn zones globally (Ukraine, Sudan, Turkey, Mexico, Syria, Afghanistan, etc,) reduces the available men for marriage substantially. Then the life expectancy of women outstrips that of men my as 5-19 years and more. The aforementioned countries also lead world statistics in the life-expectancy gap between males (average 66 years) and females (average 77 years).
This leaves us with a glut of surplus women, all of whom would like to get married but stymied by the lack of available men. But that's not the actual problem. The real problem is the democratic law against polygamy (having plural wives at the same time) and the vigorously condemnation of it by the mainstream church and state. Polygamy has been a customary practice in many cultures and in many societies. Since ancient times this is very prominent in biblical scripture in a Hebrew setting and in modern times in a Mormon setting. Both forms of polygamy is strongly patriarchal intrinsically tied to a strong sense of mutual acceptance by the families involved beside being part of their religious doctrine.
However in the Reynolds vs. United States case, the Supreme Court banned polygamy in preference of heterosexual monogamy but did not outlaw Polyamory (engaging in multiple sexual relationships with the consent of all the people involved) in fact it wasn't even mentioned. Based on this one could quite comfortably say Democratic lawmakers prefer Polyamory above polygamy, thereby giving both men and women swinging (sexually liberated and rampant promiscuity) rights which invariably raise paternity issues in the case of pregnancy, bastard children in the event of birth, whores for mothers, mhores (male whores) for fathers. Condoning indiscriminate sex, sexually transmitted diseases, plural single women impregnated by the same man, some of whom will have abortions, others will raise their illegitimate children with an absentee father who they will sue for alimony payments and have him imprisoned if they can't pay. They then become a burden of the state in the form of child support. Law makers also condone gay and same sex marriages leading to confused children. Is this Democrazy or just crazy?
Instead they punish the father willing to marry plural wives, seeing to their needs (food shelter clothing etc,) and remains responsible for caring for all his children from these plural wives, all of whom get to share the love of their sisters and brothers and have both their parents as a family unit living under one roof. It is a case of the have's and the have nots. Those women who have a husband tend not to want to share, but those women who don't have a husband are genuinely willing to share a husband. The reason being, there is just too few men to go around. And when an woman's body clock is ticking and can't find a husband, and not willing to embrace a polygamous marriage, may opt to cheat with any available married man, instead of letting one of them make an honest woman out of her. This is a recipe for a broken marriage and irate wife, a sexually transmitted disease and an unwanted pregnancy and a possible divorce.
